How do you overcome the feelings of helplessness and hopelessness when you suffer from depression?
I can tell you that it is no easy task to admit to yourself let alone others that you will feel isolated and that you’re feel helpless and hopeless. No one understands you, there’s no one that you believe would even listen. When you feel this way what I like to do is express myself in a way that helps me release the pressure and anxiety. I write, I find a creative way to escape the feelings. I journal and sometimes I talk to people who I know can relate to my pain.
Depression hurts and impairs you in many ways physically, mentally and socially. It is a terrible feeling to have to talk to people who have no idea of the stress you feel on a daily basis. I’m writing this as a way of healing for myself and to share my experience in living with depression. Truly I can say that my entire life experience hasn’t been all bad but for a great part of it I feel like I lost control of my life. I no longer have been making my own decisions. I have been running on emotional fuel.
My thinking becomes very irrational and everything I once loved I started to hate. I can’t say at what point the tables turned exactly I just know that they have and the pain and anxiety I feel as result is very real. I feel like the world in closing in on me and shutting me out for my life. Then the question in my head becomes do I give in?
I have never been a quitter. I have always stood true to my own beliefs about myself but something in me has changed. I feel as though I have NO control over anything in my life. Except me and that’s even if these days. Right now I seem so not important so why not just say to hell with it? My life is leaving me behind throwing me away. How do I get it back? These are just a few things I battle with everyday I open my eyes. I truly believe that the fighter in me is why I’m still here. I’m not as powerless as I think.
I have to remember that I was created and equipped with all I need to succeed in my life. I’m here writing this to you to tell you that you too were created and equipped with all that you need. We have an untapped source of strength that lives within us. It’s up to us to find it and harness it. When you feel like everything you do turns into a disaster think about all the good you do and people who’s lives you touch.
I have learned that life is not always fair as we believe it should be but life is meant to be lived. The bad sometimes comes with costs that we would rather not pay but when you think about it the fact is there is a blessing waiting on the other side of the lessen the pain and the hurt. On the journey to self discovery I found that we are ultimately only allowed to have complete control how we react and assign meanings to everything we are confronted with in our lives.
Of course you can control where you live, your profession but the universe and what you bring into comes from your thinking. Therefore you and I are not helpless or hopeless. The reason we feel this way is because we have become accustomed to focusing and dwelling on the things that have no worked out for us. How about we start to change that today and focus on the positive things that still exist in our lives. Just because things have not worked out as we planned is not the end of the world unless we choose it to be for us.
We have to begin to retrain ourselves and our thinking in a way that keeps us in tune with reality because the truth is what we see as a lost may not have been meant for us from beginning. When we control our emotional selves we control how we act and respond to the situations that confront us in a more positive way and in a way that is check with the reality of the situation. Think before you simply respond or react to some things that happens you and you will feel better.
To want to always win is a recipe for disaster and may be the underlining reason behind the very cause of you feeling helpless and hopeless. Start to concentrate on the things that are going well in your life. Face the reality of what has happened negative and you have to let go. Holding on to it only helps keep you captive and you lose your power to those emotions. Remember we are starting to take control of our emotions and own them.
Affirm yourself with positivity like positive self talk and surround yourself with like-minded people who support you. This will help you on your journey out of feeling helpless and hopeless.
I hope this blog has help someone is a positive way. Everything happens for a reason and that is why I’m here!
Ms Reason Show 